I wasn’t going to post about this. My original plan was to go through it all alone and don’t even tell my family or closest friends about it—that’s how bad I wanted to NOT draw attention to myself. And, although I’m not ready to fully discuss the situation publicly yet (give me some time to process it and someday I probably will), I wanted to share a glimpse of what I’m going through right now because I just realized something important and I feel like I need to share.
Since my medical condition is “nothing life-threatening” and “so many people have it worse than me,” I genuinely felt like I shouldn’t BOTHER anyone with my problems. People have their on lives to worry about—and although I would totally support them in case THEY needed my help—I didn’t think I “needed” their support that much. Or better yet, I knew I did but I convinced myself I didn’t because “needing them” made me feel LESS than somebody who would be “strong enough” to go through this alone.
But here’s the catch… we have to ADMIT we “need help” in order to receive “the help we need” to solve our problems. We literally can’t get all the answers on our own—that’s why we have “unsolved problems” in the first place! So the only solution here is to learn to RECEIVE. Only when we overcome the shame of asking for help, and reject the idea that “needing it” makes us less valuable as a person, will we be able to solve whatever problem we’re going through and GROW into a better version of ourselves.
So start accepting help, my friend. If you’re struggling with something in your life, reach out to professionals or let the people around you know that you need them. Because—despite what we’ve been raised to believe—we CAN’T do everything on our own. And recognizing this doesn’t make you weaker, it actually proves how strong you are (most people would rather crumble alone than to speak up) and also exponentially increases your chances of becoming someone BETTER at the end of all this.
[PS. Sending a huge THANK YOU to all the people who’ve been actively helping me get through my personal challenge!]